people always ask me why i'm not getting better but i don't know how to tell them that doctors just think women suffer more inherently and that many of my illnesses were blamed on being a woman with no other explanations. and that i have so much medical debt only for doctors to go "is cause girl"

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sometimes i think about those articles that blame female illness on some kind of mass hysteria then i think about how the medical industry just avoids taking women seriously then i think about how birth control wasn't approved for men because they had the same symptoms as women then i think ab

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we got a non-SAM aro in the system (although it's not been around for a while due to burning out) and so we're very protective of other non-SAM aros and aces 🤝

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"But what did they expect? That's how it is when you are a mod!" but what if—hear me out—it wasn't? What if we insisted that folks are human and led with empathy in tense moments AND outside them, when we talk about the dynamics? There'd still be bad instances, of course! And it'd still be better!

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So many people see how moderators get treated in servers and decide they cannot start communities because they could never live up to expectations. Or they do and set themselves up to fail by catering to people who see them as enemies, not as people generously offering their time. And we let it!

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