Yes I have. The canceling ESPECIALLY AT THE LAST MINUTE... makes it less likely that people are going to continue to engage with you.

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What's noteworthy to me is that the source material refers to hosting people at home as "cost-free" and it often isn't—which makes the current culture where people cancel A LOT (same day, or even during the time of the planned hang) even tougher to navigate.

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@prisonculture.bsky.social has talked about this. Making plans in a culture where people chronically bail on plans makes continuing to make plans harder.

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The dawn rainbow at Montrose Beach this morning.

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The expectation that any creative or intellectual pursuit should be able to be accomplished without friction (or tedium or expense) is frankly absurd. Putting work—energy, brainpower, hours of practice and study—into your chosen pursuit is what makes it worthwhile, makes it joyful

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