I sometimes wonder whether it's because people tend to show up at my parents' house for meals with little or no warning, or if they show up *because* they know there will always be plenty of food for guests.

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I *really* need to find a way to remember that the baseline for my mother's recipes is "feed everyone you know, plus maybe the 78th infantry division, you know, just in case they show up unexpectedly" servings.

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If you try to enforce any boundaries on what treatment you'll tolerate, it's immediate manipulation tactics (DARVO, gaslighting, etc.) to turn you into the villain. The hand-wringers can publish all the op eds they like, but life as the villain is quite calm and gentle compared to the alternative.

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Many of my friends are estranged from one or both parents. A common thread, including my own experience, is a dismissive parent unwilling to accept any accountability for their behavior & who demands a license to treat others like shit whenever and however they want without consequence.

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Not a doctor but if it's unsafe for you to sleep, seems like it's also unsafe for you to play quarterback in an NFL game

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