Monica Samelson

monicocelot.bsky.social

09 March 2025 19:23

This was so good!! "Caring for each other and the world around us has been the daily task of our species from time immemorial. And it’s more urgent now than ever. Our opponents have almost all the money and guns. All we have is almost all the people."

Dean Spade

deanspade.bsky.social

09 March 2025 19:23

The 'relationship escalator'--the idea that sexual and romantic relationships should travel a set path toward increased seriousness--is a problem because it is coercive. However, escalation itself isn't always bad or wrong: we should choose it only when we know we really want it. (1/3)

Dean Spade

deanspade.bsky.social

09 March 2025 19:23

Many of us don't really choose escalation, instead we are seeking more security or the high of feeling chosen, so we escalate without thinking about if it's what we want. We may have different ideas than our lovers about what the things we are saying or doing mean. This is important to notice! (2/3)

Dean Spade

deanspade.bsky.social

09 March 2025 19:23

Trying to make our interactions intentional, consensual, and transparent is challenging when the romance myth is brainwashing all of us and getting in the way of knowing what we want and communicating directly with others. (3/3)

Sinclair Sexsmith

sugarbutch.net

09 March 2025 19:23

wear a mask. wear a mask. wear a mask. rsv, norovirus, covid, flu — there is still a lot going on out there.