porn was vital in me discovering my asexuality and my sex favorability. i was never attracted to the people/bodies in irl porn, and for the longest time i was absolutely sickened by the idea of someone touching me. it felt like being violated, and it was through discovering kink i learned they were

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online kink communities, especially furry ones, illustrated these scenarios in art and conversation where someone felt exhilarated by nonsexual touch and experiences surrounding a theme, and that's when so many things clicked into place for me. i learned sex scared me if my consent wasn't considered

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It’s sad that the discussion around pornography is always framed as “it’s potentially harmful.” It’s also potentially healthy? What did you learn about yourself, your body, your gender, your preferences, your boundaries and your self expression through the smut you consume?

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it's been a long and tough journey but i have a t4t kinky asexual partner and we both understand each other and boundaries so deeply that i have never felt safer. the me from ten years ago could never conceive what the me from today is accomplishing casually. i could go into gender too, even!

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as stupid as it sounds, befriending yaoi/shonen-ai fangirls in my tweens that focused on boys kissing and in love fucking kickstarted my coming out as trans. i'd known i was different since i was young, but having the words to say "i want to be the boy kissing another boy" saved my ass at 12-14

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